Run the Mile You’re In
“Run the Mile You’re In“. I first read this in a Facebook post and was struck by the simplicity of it. So I Googled to find who I should attribute this to, and it turns out it’s the name of a book. Maybe someone really wise first said it – not sure.
I’m going on vacation next week, and don’t think for a second that I didn’t start worrying about whether or not I’d drink from the moment I figured out 90 days wasn’t up until afterward. We are going with my parents, siblings, nieces and nephews. They are all lovely (and I wouldn’t say if they weren’t), but the stress of being together for 6 days has always driven me to drink – and not in shy amounts. Not to mention we’ve never failed to mark celebratory moments without expensive wine. This time will be no different.
At 10 days, I couldn’t comprehend sitting on a cool patio at sunset with a gorgeous view of the Canadian Rockies without a glass of wine. To be honest, it kept me up a few nights. I contemplated not starting until it was over. But then someone wrote those words above, and I realized I was trying to run the last mile before I’d run the first. Nothing zaps your resolve faster than thinking how far you have to go. Or trying to solve a problem that hasn’t yet occurred.
I’m not the same person I was then. At 75 days, the impossible now seems possible. I don’t know if I’ll have some wine. I may and it won’t lessen anything I’ve learned about myself. It won’t make me a failure or erase what I’ve accomplished. And then again I might decide I’d rather have some sparkling water. Fact is I’ve changed. And that’s all I really set out to do.
It’s easy to look forward and say, “I’ll start after my cousin’s wedding,” or “I’ll sign up for that fitness class once I lose 20 pounds.” Look at your calendar – there’s never going to be a right time. We’re going to challenge Eat To Perform members to an alcohol-free September. It’s voluntary, of course, but there will be a million reasons why this month won’t work. Or the next one or the one after that.
It’s like waiting until January to make a New Year’s resolution. There’s no magic about January. It’s just because you’ve been putting off what you really wanted to do all year, and it finally seems like a good time to start.
Here’s all I can say from my experience. Once you decide you need something different out of life, just do it and then run the mile you are in. Don’t let the fact that mile 20 will be hard stop you from starting mile 1. Or that you might take a break at mile 16 for a minute. Just keep going.
I know if I hadn’t started at the end of April, I’d be 75 days further down the same old road. And I can promise you, even though I have no idea where this road leads, I’m much happier being on it.
By Suzie Glassman, Eat To Perform Coach